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To Dance or not to Dance? That is the Question…

To Dance or not to Dance? That is the Question…

First dances always raise a lot of questions for brides and grooms contacting Warble and so who better to get a bit of a lowdown and advice from than a professional singer who has seen more than 3,500 of them!! Sophie is the bandleader for no less than 4 bands on the Warble roster and offers the following…

“The first dance decision is an absolute mine field. I speak to a lot of couples who don’t actually have a special song and therefore want advice or suggestions on what to choose. Some want a slow number and others want an upbeat fun song that their friends and family can join in with. Then there’s another option which is to perform a dance routine……. I’ll come back to this a little later.

To Dance or not to Dance? That is the Question…Here’s a list of popular upbeat and slow first dance songs in no particular order that have been requested the most over the past 3,500 plus weddings I’ve performed on:

  • Moon Dance – Van Morrison
  • Brown Eyed Girl – Van Morrison
  • Have I Told You Lately – Van Morrison
  • Let There Be Love – Nat King Cole
  • Your Song – Ellie Goulding Version
  • Let’s Stay Together – Al Green
  • At Last – Etta James
  • Thank You – Dido
  • The Greatest Day – Take That
  • You’ve Got The Love- Florence And The Machine
  • Better Together – Jack Johnson
  • Marry You – Bruno Mars
  • Use Somebody – Kings Of Leon
  • Unchained Melody – The Righteous Brothers
  • Can’t Take My Eyes Off You – Andy Williams
  • It Had To Be You – Frank Sinatra
  • Sex On Fire – Kings Of Leon

No surprise ‘Brown Eyed Girl’ and ‘Unchained Melody’ are in the list. They rank as two of the top ten selling songs of all time where royalty payments are concerned. Here’s a few more popular first dance songs as well: http://whimsicalwonderlandweddings.com/2013/05/first-dance-wedding-song-ideas.html

However, some of the more bizarre choices I’ve performed:

  • Every Breath You Take – The Police (about Stings ex-wife and his loathing of her!)
  • Baby Can I Hold You Tonight – Tracey Chapman (this song is about a couple who’ve broken up!)
  • Brown Eyed Girl – Van Morrison (unusual that the bride at the wedding had blue eyes?!)

In some cases it is recommended to do a quick bit of research to just check that the song you have chosen is really appropriate for what you are wanting to say…

Anyway, it’s your big day, you’ve chosen the song and all your friends and family have formed a circle of love round the edge of the room. The band has just announced your entry as you both take to the floor to the sound of rapturous applause and then……

* Dry throat, sweating, jelly legs and a quick glug of something strong…*

It’s no wonder 3 minutes can seem like an hour for some couples! Mid song the bride and groom often signal to me desperately to announce ‘EVERYONE on the dance floor!’

And, truth be told, this actually works really well because those 3 minutes are then fun-filled and it keeps everyone on the floor for the band to launch straight into their first set, avoiding an empty dance floor straight after the first dance… which, can make it harder for the band to get the entire crowd back in one go.

I mentioned ‘dance routines’ at the beginning of this blog so let’s come back to that…
It’s become popular in recent years for couples to take professional dance lessons keeping it a surprise from everyone until the big day. Often the surprise is not the one you wanted. Trust me when I say this – unless you really have the timing, rhythm and the moves to pull off a Strictly Come Dancing style routine – gliding round the floor like Fred & Ginger, avoid it completely!

I’ve watched too many disasters unfold in front of me in those cherished 3 minutes as we play the first dance. Couples falling over, going the wrong way in the routine, the groom stepping on the brides foot, arguing who’s got it wrong, two left feet and worse of all the bride stepping on her own dress ripping through it and getting stuck in the middle of the floor. The moment is gone in a flash and you’ve spent the entire time concentrating on getting the dance routine correct after your 6 lessons with a choreographer. The song ends and it’s just been 3 minutes of stress and excruciating pain for you and your guests, watching, what is often, a car crash in slow motion.

So, for those of you who shy away from being the centre of attention (quite literally in this case) heed my advice. Whether your first dance is slow or fast, invite your guests up to join you after a couple of verses. It gets a bit lonely out there and you’ll enjoy it a whole lot more. The result? The photographer gets some relaxed and happy snaps and you get 3 minutes well spent with your partner AND everyone you love!”

Sophie is the bandleader for the following fantastic Warble Entertainment bands:

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One Comment

  1. Warble Matt says:

    Thank you 😀